A Tarot Reading for Overcoming Social Anxiety

August 22, 2022

Hello, friend! I recently worked with a client who, similarly to myself, struggles with social anxiety. As Tarot does time and again, the messages received for my client also resonated deeply with myself. I felt compelled to share this with you— I know that if you're here, there’s something in this reading that you’re meant to hear! This reading is adapted for a wider audience, so take what resonates, and leave the rest.

I chose a simple 3 card spread:

First, what is your general vibe/attitude about going into a social setting right now?

Second, what is hidden? As far a socializing goes— the card could indicate influences or opportunities.

And third, Advice from Spirit.

In this reading, I received so much insight from Spirit to help me socially open up and some wonderful reminders. I hope you can find the same value in the messages below...

1) What’s your general vibe/attitude toward socializing?

5 of Pentacles represents that your circle may be small or non-existent. You may no longer know anyone you click with, and this makes you feel all the more isolated or on your own than you truly are. The card often represents feelings that the world is against you. There’s an inner struggle present, which could be caused by something in your past; a negative social experience, bullying, or trauma.

On this card, see you are not alone– this is a good omen that there are kind strangers in your future. However, you will need to open yourself to being receptive to their kindness, or else they cannot reach you.

Side note: Pentacles deals with finances, so perhaps you’re a bit worried about having to spend money to go out and do things in order to socialize. Brainstorm ideas that you can have ready, for when it comes time to make social plans, which do not require spending money.

2) What is hidden, as far as socializing goes for you?

Two cards fell out initially— I ended up pulling a couple more cards for clarity, because it felt like there was more to this message.

First, 5 of Swords shows a person looking over their shoulder, which strikes as that feeling when you feel like everyone is whispering about you or laughing at you, which is a normal symptom of social anxiety.

The card may indicate that you are making something up which isn’t true– therefore, your worries are likely to get the best of you. It can point to self-sabotage, where you make yourself feel defeated before you’ve even had the chance to try. If you give in to the energies of this card, you’re likely to lack communication on your part, and remain isolated from others.

This card also has a vibe of overcoming challenges. You likely have a reason from a past experience which left a mark on you and put these worries into your mind. It’s best to leave the past behind you, and not to carry this experience with you any longer. There is positive change coming, and it’s up to you if you want to be a part of it.

The Emperor represents control over the self, willpower, and stability. It can carry a stubborn energy— so it may be saying that in your past, it’s easier to give in to the worries (for example, everyone whispering about it laughing at you) than to question and challenge them. The Emperor reminds you to ground yourself, focus on logic and reality, and evidence which is tangible. Do not let your mind run away with fiction. Release those anxious thoughts, allow them to pass through like visitors.

There aren’t a lot of cards with orange on it in this deck, and it stands out to me as a connection to the sacral chakra, which is responsible for your personal identity and self-esteem. Part of your worry may stem from feelings that you aren’t quite sure who you truly are yet. This is totally normal and okay. Like anything, meeting yourself is a process. Some things that can help are practicing mindfulness, journaling, trusting yourself, and challenging yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments and be proud of yourself for the times that you put in the effort, even if things do not go as you’d hoped. Every time you try is a chance to grow.

4 of Swords can represent anxiety which brings you to mental overload. It reminds you that when you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a break to prioritize yourself. There will be opportunities to come for you to step back and focus on yourself between socializing. Take that time to regroup and recharge, so you’re able to get yourself back out there when the time comes. This card wants to remind you also to have faith in the positives, and have faith that there are wonderful people out there that you’re meant to connect with.

The Magician is a good omen and encouraging card. You can do anything, and you’re capable of more than you realize. There’s something very good to come of your efforts.

The Magician is about taking action, bringing something into reality, but only if you put the effort in.

This card has a lot of yellow, which connects with the solar plexus, and seems to be inviting you now to find your personal power. What makes you feel confident in who you are? What brings you courage? When do you most feel yourself? How can you manifest this into your life?

3) Advice from Spirit:

Next I pulled the Empress, which interests me because I pulled the Emperor as well, so this may be indicating a balancing act of your masculine and feminine energies. The Emperor seems to be asking you to try harnessing masculine energies for willpower and clarity to help you; where The Empress invites you to harness your feminine energies toward making new social connections.

You can only build on skills by doing, and communication is no different. Take the time to explore the emotions of compassion and empathy. Listen attentively to others with an open mind. Additionally, take good care of yourself, and do what makes you feel good and fulfilled.

The Empress invites you to openly be yourself. Doing so attracts the right people for you to socialize with. Do your best not to put on a mask or persona; this is how you end up surrounded by people that make you feel alone in a crowded room.

And once again, the Empress reminds you to take care of your own needs. Making sure you feel good and confident as you are, will give you a positive boost when it comes to social settings.